Honestly, he may get there and stay for 10 minutes, or an hour. But who knows! He has asked close to 5 different people to go with him and they have all said no. I see all of these posts about people raising above and beyond to do great things for their classmates and i’ve been a huge proponent of my town and how great the kids are here, but honestly i have had ONE friend say that maybe her kid could go as a “group” and invite my child. No one else.
And how does that make me feel? Let alone how it makes Rhett feel? Honestly, Rhett is not always a nice person, he loves drama, he creates drama. But, he is a kid that just wants to go to prom, and i as his mom can’t “make” someone go with him.
I had a friend from TEXAS reach out and ask if there was anything she could do, because of course Rhett even asked on a fragile x group for help finding a prom date.
Honestly , it makes me feel like maybe i don’t know the community i’ve chosen to raise my kids in, and maybe for a minute i thought people were a little bit better than they really are. Mostly it makes me sad, because in a world where a kid just wants the “Prom” experience, there is no one willing to help or even offer to help.
I get it, this is his own doing to a point, but it is also, unfortunately, what has been done to him.
To most people, he is happy and fun and caring, i just hate that this will take a little bit more of that away from him. And so this is the time that “Holland” seems less fun, when all the things you have been building for as a parent just go wrong, and when you feel just so alone. Please, if you know someone who wants to go to prom, who may have a hard time finding a date, who might be an outsider or not “cool”, don’t forget them, don’t make them feel less than, don’t make them feel like a failure. Be a good person, invite them along. It would solve a whole lot of depression and heartache.
So, what do i do? As a mom, do i just say, “sorry about your luck?”, or do i say “well, people are shitty”?, or do i just say...” it’s not worth all of this stress” I honestly don’t know and for once it is absolutely something i can not “fix” for him.
And so, for the first time since 5th grade, I am once again a helpless mom, that can’t even help my child if i try. And that, makes me sad for him and his future.